This is another one I wrote for the good people at http://www.teachsecondary.com. You can subscribe by hitting the link. This month’s edition features loads of good stuff surrounding the teaching profession including an interview with Mr Mitchell from Educating Yorkshire right at the front. 

The front. He’s in it once and he gets to go near the front. Guess where I am. Go on. Guess.


Legacy Image


It’s getting to that stage in my career when a lot of the kids I taught as a fresh-faced young’un with hope in my heart and biros in my pocket have themselves reached adulthood. It seems like every time I’m out shopping I’m met by the dreaded call of ‘Sir! Sir!’ and turn around not to be greeted by some uniformed pipsqueak, but by a towering monolith whose crushing handshake proceeds to turn every one of my bones into a fine powder. They excitedly tell me about the great times they had in class and I (rapidly, and with ever more panic) try to pluck their name from the dark and dusty recesses of my memory and hope that I’m not getting mugged.

‘Do you remember me?’ is invariably the question. I’ve had it from angels and tearaways and 9 times out of 10 I can pull it out of the bag. That’s no mean feat considering I’ve taught close to a burzillion students or something. Touchingly, they want to know whether they made an impression; whether they might have meant something to me. I haven’t the heart to tell them that in many cases the thing that they left me with was mild PTSD after being in the same room as them for 45 minutes.

It’s the same with teachers. We too want to make an impression. We want to shape those young minds and get them to where they need to be. We want to give them the knowledge and skills that’ll help them on their journey through life. That’s what we want them to remember us for.

But, you know. Kids.

Instead of being ‘the teacher who never gave up on me’ you’re often ‘that ginger one who only had one jumper’. Instead of ‘an inspiration who helped me become the woman I am today’ you’re ‘Mr Jenkins who fell off his chair in assembly that time.’ We can mould and shape all we want, but we can’t dictate whether it’s our good work that gets remembered or that time we let them go early because we forgot it was a two hour lesson rather than just one.

So I don’t begrudge the grown-up kids I see when they talk more about the way my face went dark red when they told me they’d forgotten their book for the umpteenth time or when I went completely mental when the class came third at sports day rather than the way I got them to analyse language to look for deeper meaning or how they can now write a pretty decent paragraph on any subject of their choosing because of the things I did. You don’t get to choose what people ultimately remember and it’s really not up to us to say that within the great tapestry of their time at school it should be this or that which they should cherish the most.

So when Sophie or Callum or Stephen or Kar-Wai or whoever collar me during my mission to get an extra elbow patch for my corduroy jacket it’s nice really. I see the tiny faces of who they were when they were in my class superimposed onto the faces of who they became once they left it. Sometimes there’s hardly a change but mostly there is; life catches up with us all – the quiet ones and the class clowns alike. I hope that something I did helped them, a lesson opened their eyes to the wonder of poetry, or at the very least I helped them put their capitals in the right place or whatnot. But when I meet these giants who were once in my care, as we catch up and they tell me about their own children (which always knocks me for six and never fails to make me feel so very old) I mostly just hope that they’re happy.

I’ve done my bit. What I wanted them to take with them and what they actually did are sometimes as different as night and day and if my legacy ends up being ‘that one in the glasses who wouldn’t stop talking’ well, that’s fine too; not everything is remembered or used. It doesn’t really matter.

And they are mighty fine glasses.





  1. Assissi (@Assissi2)

    Education is the bits that happen in between the bits you HAVE to teach them – think of the people who taught you, you remember the things and events that influenced you and helped form your character.
    I’m an “old” teacher and increasingly see the opportunity for these bits, these relationships, being squeezed out by a frantic need from above to control content in our classes.
    As an ITT mentor the stronger students (who were subsequently more successful teachers) were the ones where they were able to step outside “the plan” when it was needed and were able to recognise just when to do that.
    Stopping now before I rant.

    • tstarkey1212

      Rant away!

      Even with a multitude of pressures I still want to believe that human relationships in the classroom prevail. You have to work at it, (perhaps more than in the past) but I hope we’re not at the point yet where we have to give them up as extraneous.

      I hope.

      Thanks for commenting.

    • tstarkey1212

      Ha! My Ma was a teacher and I think the record when she retired might have been three generations – I’ll check and get back.

  2. jonnywalkerteaching

    I was flattered to be involved in this reflective project in which my kids got interviewed on video about me as a teacher. The kid who is doing best in my class felt like a safe bet – I expected him to deliver a standard spiel about ‘kind Sir always helps me’. – instead, his video feedback was “Sir’s weird, he ate bread in a fractions lesson.”

    • tstarkey1212

      Them kids with their truths and that. Honestly, this is one of the problems I have with student feedback. They see too much.

      • jonnywalkerteaching

        Last week, as our Deputy Head was having a quiet word to remind me about having higher expectations of children’s presentation in their books, one boy piped up “Sir why you so nervous talking to Mrs ——…You are scared and fiddling with your sock like when I am scared.” This was amusing and perceptive, but contributed to a next level of awkwardness as both I and DHT were aware of my fear.

  3. Chic Teacher

    A fantastic (and highly relatable) article! I’m always seeing ex students out and about, usually at the most inopportune moments. It’s lovely to catch up with them and hear how they’ve grown into responsible (or sometimes the opposite) young adults. I never ask them what they remember about me… not entirely sure I’d want to hear the answer!

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