Hayden is kicking off again. With a clockwork regularity he’s decided he’s not going to do his work and instead is shouting across the room to a boy he likes to shout at when he doesn’t want to do his work. The boy shouts back and this personal affront means that Hayden is up and out of his chair, lunging towards him kicking chairs and pupils out of the way. You intervene, and this leads to a confrontation where Hayden threatens you, using particularly abusive language. You’re calm, yet firm and ask Hayden to leave the classroom. Which, after much protestation and further abuse, he does.
You wearily make your way out to of the class and Hayden is there pacing, you’ve been here before. You wait, sitting down on a chair as Hayden continues to pace. You know this might take a while but the rest of the class are fine and this one really needs you. His behaviour screams that at you. Hayden’s home life is chaotic – father is AWOL and his mother tries in her own way but with four other children and her own issues, it’s incredibly difficult. Hayden’s actions are a reflection of the pain he’s in and you understand this.
Eventually he calms and a discussion begins. You’re sensitive, funny even – trying to lighten the mood because you know he responds to that (we’ve been here before after all). He’s nonchalant, defiance still there in his eyes but there’s also a softening. He smiles. You take this as a good sign, He moves back into the room, apologises to the boy (this brings audible gasps from some of the other members of the class as it is so out of character) and sits down. You’ll probably have to do this again, but that doesn’t matter – you’ll continue to work with the pastoral team who have a firm handle on Hayden, his behaviour and triggers, and you’ll continue to reach out. Because he needs it.
One row and two desks behind Hayden sits Jack. Jack’s home life is a narrative of horror and he doesn’t know if he can take it any more.
No-one knows this because Jack is quiet.
The bell goes.